Where could One go to learn about the Fetish/Kink Lifestyle without being tactless or making a big jackass of their self? I have several Fet-Life friends but at times I'm nervous to ask some questions and dumbfounded by what I should be asking/learning. Thank you :]
I think the best place to learn about the kink community without going to a secret location with people in leather is a munch. Munches are public social gatherings put on by local kink communities. They are usually held in diners or bars. You can find munches near you via FetLife. Search for your local kink groups and they should have a list of events. Show up, use whatever name you want, and get to know what kinky people are really like.
If you’re not yet ready to venture out into the Great Kink Beyond, then I would suggest checking out the Comfy Chair or Novices and Newbies groups on FetLife. If you’re interested in specific techniques, check out Kink Academy: http://www.kinkacademy.com/ .
Let me know if you need anything else,